Marie is from an equatorial rainforest area of what was once the Belgian Congo―now Zaire. Her father was a captain in the Belgian army who was stationed in the Congo to train the local army. Her mother (on the right) is the daughter of a village chief Abiangama who ruled the Bakoda people - a part of the Babudu tribe who spoke the Kibudu language. As was customary during colonial times, Marie's grandfather gave his young daughter to a visiting military officer during his stay there. From this union Marie was born. At the end of his tour of duty, Capt. Patfoort returned to Belgium and her mother to her family's village. According to tribal law, children are the property of their father. Consequently, Marie did not return to the village with her mother. Instead, her father placed her in the care of Nellie Meloon, a missionary.( Marie's grandmother is seen on the left )
Marie refers to Miss Meloon as her mother and the group of children as her Family of brothers and sisters (seen on the right). She has maintained contact with most of them throughout her adult life. Her earliest memories are of "the home" and does not remember her natural mother. Later she would learn that her mother came many times to visit her when she was a very little girl.
"It was a Four day walk. Her
brother, my uncle, would bring her. One time a leopard was In the path.
Its mate had been killed and it was standing there ― very Fierce. They had
no weapon and did not know what to do. Then my uncle began to talk to the
leopard ― quietly ― telling it why they were there... After awhile, the
leopard put down his head and went Into the
Life at the mission centered
around school, work and the companionship of other children. The adults
spoke English the children spoke Lingala and other dialects.
(below is
an illustration from a language book )
Marie developed a strong bond with Miss Meloon and especially to a sister
named Jackie. She says she and Jackie were catered to because they were
the youngest and because she was so sickly. As a young girl she suffered
From dysentery, malaria, black water fever... "just everything that came
along." She was not expected to live
until adulthood. She recalls
"That day our mother
thought I would not last until the night. She had all my brothers and
sisters come one at a time to see me and say something to me. The sister
that was very close to me came and started to cry.., But I did not
die...When I look back on it, our mother planted in us a great love For
each other even though we were not blood relative." Periodically, Miss
Meloon would return to the United States to renew her visa. During these
times, Marie says she really felt like an orphan. Some of the children's
families would come for them while the mother was gone. Marie and a few
others stayed at the mission. She remembers feeling very joyful whenever
her mother would return. (
below left is Marie and her
"Christmas Tree" from the
jungle
)
Although Marie's father had left a sum of money intended to support her,
she
"...We
were poor, but we kept ourselves clean. We also had food to eat.
Africans are very good about sharing food ― especially to children."
When Marie was twelve, the money her father had set aside had been used
up. Her missionary mother made no attempt to contact him. Marie continued
to live at the mission because as she said, "they had truly become my
Family." Marie
attended a local school as a little girl where she learned French, reading
and arithmetic. Education rudimentary by western standards, and at the age
of ten
Marie herself began teaching. She felt
overwhelmed with the responsibility and remembered coming home "My mother didn't know what to do to comfort me) . She had taught us to do whatever was asked of us. You learned by doing." Gradually, she began to gain confidence in her ability to help others. As her skills improved, other missionaries began to borrow Marie and her sisters to help teach others .(on the right the men are preparing a new roof for the house the children lived in) She continued her own education evenings by being tutored at home in Latin, math, history. Her tutor, Dr. Curry, would become a lifelong mentor and friend.
During her adolescence, Marie
also began working in the dispensary. Infant mortality was very high; thus
proper nutrition was seen as paramount by the mission. Specific
"Africans don't learn to measure. It was important that the babies have just the right amount. It became my job―morning and at night―to boil all the bottles and measure the milk (made from peanut butter ) for each baby." She did not mind the extra work.
At fifteen, Marie wished to
meet her natural mother. With some help from the mission, her mother was
located "In the end, she accepted me as her child. She cried She had been angry that her only child had been taken from her....I think there is lot to heredity. We are a lot alike in the Face and so...but also in the way we do things the way we are inside." She has continued her relationship with her mother throughout her adulthood. (here Marie is seen caring for a baby)
At twenty, Marie had an
opportunity to marry. As she puts it, "He found me. Mind you, I did not
see him much―only a few times. I decided to just go down there to marry,
but my mother said there should be a celebration." Marie and her
mother went to meet him and learned that he had two children and another
woman. This lack of honesty troubled Marie greatly, and she broke the
engagement. She was caught between two cultures ― traditional tribal
culture that saw marriage in terms of status and
"In Africa a woman can not make it without a man. They were worried about me. What would I do?" After much discussion, it was decided that the mission would try to send Marie to the United States to study. This would prove to be an arduous task since Belgium did not allow Black women to leave the country or to become well educated. Meanwhile, Marie waited patiently and continued to live at the mission, study and teach In the neighboring villages. In 1960 Zaire became independent. Four days after independence, a bloody revolution began that would consume the country for many years and leave more than 200,000 people dead. Because of her mixed parentage, Marie was in great danger. With immigration paperwork only partially completed, she was evacuated to Kampala, Uganda and ultimately the United States. (Click the arrow ONCE to see a movie clip of that event ) "One afternoon I was doing my laundry. Suddenly, they (the missionaries) came and said the troops were coming, 'You must go out from here. ' . . .I pushed my wet clothes in a bag and went...we traveled in the night to the city to try to get on a plane going out of the country ... I had to wait a few days there. They were taking pregnant women and children first...I stayed in the city with some others. It was a scary time...We didn't know―in the night you slept and then came a knock at the door. You didn't know if it was death for everybody or what! You had to do what they told you."
Marie arrived in the United States
penniless. Through the
assistance of Dr. Curry, she was sponsored by an "My mother (Mama Meloon) taught me to trust in God. . . .You have to do your part, too. But if you work hard and really trust in God, He will see that things work out. However, I was only allowed to work 20 hours a week because I was a student and an immigrant." Of greater concern than money was whether or not Marie would be allowed to continue to stay in this country. Her visa expired within two or three years after her arrival. Since her country was in such chaos, it was impossible to get another; and she was faced with possible deportation. It wasn't until Dag Hammarskjold was killed and U.N. forces became involved that she was able to get a permanent visa.
In 1969, she had an opportunity to return to Zaire to teach. The revolution had ended and the government of Zaire was anxious to begin rebuilding. Marie agreed to return for two years to teach French and English, Returning provided Maria with the opportunity to renew old friendships and acquaintances. She was able to once again locate her natural mother. "I Found her in poverty...She told me that during much of the war she and others would go in the woods and cover themselves with leaves during the day to hide from the soldiers...She had nothing. This time I had money so I bought her everything..." But Zaire was not the place she remembered. Revolution and time had "changed everything upside down. It was awful." Schools had been closed since 1960. The evidence of destruction was everywhere. Unmarked graves littered the countryside making it difficult to rebuild without uncovering more casualties of the revolution. Because of her education and teaching skill, the government was anxious to have Marie stay and work toward educating women for the two years. They wanted her to stay, but she had to return to the states because her application to become a US citizen would run out. After those two years another war broke out and they had to evacuate people again and she could not return to her homeland.
Upon returning Marie worked
for a year in a Christian School teaching and then returned to Gordon Out of work, Marie found teaching jobs scarce. For three years she worked in a factory before returning to Maine in 1980. Ironically, she returned to Whitefield to the same school she had left―this time returning to teach remedial reading.
Marie's life has been dedicated to helping others. She is always busy and enjoys hard work. It is not unusual to see her working in a hayfield, weeding a garden or helping someone paint their house. (on the left is Marie with Lydia Chase her long time friend in Whitefield) A few summers ago, Marie spent her vacation working in an orphanage in Jamaica. Friends tease her about not going to the beach. She says there was no time. A few winters ago, a man came to her and asked if she would teach him to read. He was one her farmer students from her first fifth grade class―one of the students who couldn't learn to read. With a lot of hard work on both their parts, he has learned. She is pleased.
To many, Marie is Seen as the
quiet lady who teaches reading at the end of the hall. A Few who know her
realize her skill and dedication. A colleague recently commented, "The
kids know. She gives them a good feeling about
themselves. They can't wait
to come and see her. when she walks by, they reach out and want
to touch her." |
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